In a previous post we looked at the qualifications in Titus 2 for older women mentoring younger women. Now we turn our attention to the young women and areas for which such a mentoring relationship would be beneficial.
Then they (older women) can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. (Titus 2:4-5)
Mentoring opportunities can benefit all younger women whether married or single, with or without children, to help them learn to be godly. However, since Titus 2 specifically refers to young married women with children, this post will focus on mentoring that can be especially helpful for them.
Training women to be good wives as well as good mothers is so important. Children learn respect in the home. Much of it comes through observing the way parents treat one another. Mentoring younger mothers is critical because how a child is reared can affect future generations.
Following are areas or seasons of life for which a mother would especially benefit from mentoring by an older woman.
Love for a child begins to develop during pregnancy and continues on through the good and bad times. How do they prepare for the changes a new child brings to the home, their marriage relationship and life in general so they don’t feel resentment or regret?
Titus 2 says they should be taught to be “busy at home.” How do they manage work and family life to keep it in balance?
Toddlers & Teens
Loving children at all times seems like a given but there are certain stages children go through that can be particularly trying during which a mentor would be particularly helpful. How do they show love when the child is not acting very lovable?
Children learn respect in the home, much of which comes through observing how their parents treat one another. How do they demonstrate love and submission toward their husbands, keeping this relationship a priority, when it seems so hard to balance life?
Titus 2 goes beyond the “how-to” of being a good wife and mother to inner qualities such as self-control and kindness. How do they learn to react to the stresses of life in emotionally healthy ways?
Titus 2 also says older women should teach younger women to be pure. Obviously self-control and purity go together. If a younger woman hasn’t learned self-control, it will be harder to maintain purity in relationships. How do they get to a point where they can turn from temptations, especially when life seems like it would be better otherwise or when they feel like they need an escape from their current realities?
Effectively mentoring young mothers in the above areas will result in:
- Women who become godly, exhibiting the characteristics of the woman in Proverbs 31 of whom it is written that “Her children arise and call her blessed” (Ps. 31:28)
- Women who not only rear children who honor her but also who become lights in the world around them because of the way they live and consequently do not “malign the word of God” (Titus 2:5)
Read More: Mentoring as a Shepherding Ministry